I'd like to start with a question: when you look in the mirror, are you nice to yourself? Do you notice what you like about what you see or pin-point the things you wish you could change?
Up until recently, I would head straight to negative-town with thoughts about my reflection, but lately I've been making more of an effort to be aware of these less-than-empowering habits that I allow. And it has made a huge difference. In a quest to be the best version of myself in 2016, I'm learning that being aware of your thoughts and of the habits you employ on a daily basis is a huge first step towards bettering yourself. This is not something that most people do naturally, it requires actively making a choice. I am choosing to be more aware of my thought processes, of the things the little voices in my head say to either build me up or tear me down, and once acknowledged, I do my best to reframe everything and move toward positivity, empowerment and gratitude.
Being in control of my life has always given me peace of mind; I love detailed schedules, making long-term plans, organizing my day with to-do lists, and so forth. It alleviates the uncertainty of what's to come and helps me stay calm. This is of course a double-edged sword because as we all know, there are magical moments hidden in the unplanned and spontaneous parts of life. As with everything, it's finding balance that allows you to dip your toes in both ponds while staying upright. In an attempt to find that sweet spot, I'm scaling back on the need to have every moment in life planned and instead trying to be more mellow and just go-with-the-flow.
There are many things in life that are beyond our control, but the way we view the world and the way we view ourselves is something we do have a say in.
Struggling with being nice to yourself? Here are 3 easy things you can try.
- Write something positive on a post-it and stick it on your bathroom mirror.
- Start each day with an power pose for 5 minutes. Studies have shown that this increases confidence. Tip: you can do this while you're waiting for your coffee to brew!
- Set yourself up for a great day by preparing everything the night before: healthy snacks, coffee machine ready to go, a killer outfit that makes you feel invincible, and hitting snooze-town at a reasonable time so that you're well rested.
- Chloe Wilde